For most siblings, sharing experiences is a natural part of life. But for identical triplets Dani Darling and Jacqui Blue, sharing an MS diagnosis was something neither of them wanted.

“As triplets, there were a lot of things we didn’t want to share,” Dani said. “Like when you’re a kid, you have to split your cake and blow out your candles together. But this … this was different. MS was one of those things.”

Dani was diagnosed with relapsing-remitting multiple sclerosis (RRMS) in September. Six months later, Jacqui received the same diagnosis. Their youngest sister, Nikki, was diagnosed with radiologically isolated syndrome (RIS), a condition that sometimes precedes MS.

“When I found out that Jacqui had MS, I was devastated,” Dani admitted. “I had just been diagnosed, so I knew what was happening, and the last thing I wanted was for anyone else — especially my sister — to go through what I went through.”

The sisters later learned that they had both been living with MS for years without knowing it. But rather than letting the disease define them, they turned to each other for strength.

From Music to MS: A Lifelong Bond

Dani and Jacqui’s connection started long before their MS journeys. Music was their first language. “We started making music together … in the womb,” Jacqui joked. “No, I’m kidding. But by the time we were 3, we were harmonizing.”

“Before we could even do complete complex sentences, we were singing,” Dani added.

That lifelong harmony became even more important as they navigated their diagnoses. Jacqui, a music therapist, was already familiar with resilience training. Long before her own MS diagnosis, she was helping Dani cope with hers.

“She was like, ‘You’re going to be OK,’” Dani said. “That was actually the most important thing that helped me pick myself up and keep going — that resilience training she gave me.”

Leaning on Each Other

Living with MS is unpredictable, but having a sister who understands every challenge has been a source of comfort for both. “There are steps you can take, and it’s very important,” Jacqui said. “Reaching out for help is one of them. Be honest with your feelings. Talk things through.”

For them, resilience isn’t just about pushing through — it’s about acknowledging the hard moments and finding ways to keep going. “Stay active, mentally and physically,” Jacqui continued. “There are steps you can take to bounce back. And so we are — we’re doing them.”

Facing the Future, Together

Though MS wasn’t something they wanted to share, Dani and Jacqui have found strength in each other. They know that no matter what the disease brings, they won’t face it alone.

“I don’t know what my story would have been if I hadn’t been the first one to find out I had MS,” Dani said. “But I do know that having Jacqui by my side has made all the difference.”

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